Do you believe in Love at First Sight?
This may seem like a silly question and an even sillier discussion topic, but it popped into my head the other day. (and as I’m struggling for post ideas, I decided to throw it out there to see what others thought about it.) Additionally, it’s a very big topic of debate within YA fiction. So, we’re gonna talk about it. Okay? Okay.
Now, the first thing you must understand is where the idea of love at first sight comes from. Well, fiction of course! We see love and first sight stories throughout the ages and across cultures. One of the most classic, well-known stories of love at first sight is Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare. (and don’t try to tell me it ain’t!)
Romeo sees Juliet at a dance and falls madly in love with her without having spoken a word to her and having, just moments before, been madly in love with Rosalie. Juliet, in return, falls madly in love with Romeo upon seeing him. And the two are willing to die over their love (when they’ve literally only known each other for like… two days and have spoken about as much as Cinderella and Prince Charming. -.- )
It’s because of these stories that I wonder at the validity of love at first sight. After all, what is love? It’s an irrational, chemical bond we feel with someone that causes us to give up our own lives and well-being for the ones we love. And it’s great! Don’t get me wrong! Love is wonderful, but it is important to note that there is a difference between love and lust.
And, to me, it would seem love at first sight has more to deal with lust than love. After all, how does one love someone they do not know? How can they fall in love with someone with whom they’ve never spoken a single word nor even seen them interact? They simply ‘love’ them based on the fact that they are gorgeous.
Oh! And they don’t fall in love with ugly people. Love at first sight is never brought up with non-dropdead-gorgeous people. -.-
Thus, it would seem that there may not be such a thing as love at first sight. There is most definitely lust at first sight. YA fiction is a big proponent of lust at first sight, but they don’t see it that way. YA’s problem is their constant attempts to emulate love at first sight ala Romeo and Juliet. The problem with that? Well, besides the fact that Romeo & Juliet were all of like… 13 and 14 years old and literally both died because they’re a couple of teenage idiots…
None of YA these relationships are real.
When YA authors start a book wanting two characters to fall in love, they often force it into their own story. As a result, it feels forced to the reader. Mostly this happens because many of the authors never take the time to develop the relationship, but base it rather on the characters’ deep physical attraction for the other character (yay raging teen hormones!) The two characters (of whatever genders they may be) end up wanting to die for the other simply because they mistook their overflowing hormones as love.
Wait. Haven’t we seen this before?
…didn’t those two…
die… or something? -.-
But this is just my opinion. Perhaps someone can prove me wrong. Perhaps someone knows more than I do about love at first sight and wants to share their thoughts in the comments below? Hmm? (Please share your comments! so I’m not just standing on a soapbox! :p )
And check out my discussion from last week:
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