Why do so many books have women hating each other?
I’m sure we have all noticed this in both books and visual media. It’s the stereotype that women apparently can’t get along with each other. For whatever reason, all women in fiction hate each other. (Because women CLEARLY hate each other in real life. -.- ) This could mean that they physically fight (which is extremely unlikely and also not super common IRL) or it could mean that they verbally attack each other (way more common, especially among teenagers) or they just don’t talk to each other. Sometimes it’s so bad that the women literally find ways to fuck with the other women that they hate, which is how we get the concept of backstabbing (because you know they were besties first. >.>).
Why do women always have to hate women? I don’t know about you, but I have plenty of female friends whom I get along with just fine. And, more importantly, (because we gotta make sure we pass the Bechdel test) we don’t ONLY talk about dudes. In fact, I almost never talk about dudes with my friends. Why? Because I have a brain! I have a life! I am my own person and I’m not one of these stupid, vapid, doe-eyed teenagers we see in like EVERY YA EVER!
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Quite frankly, I don’t know why women historically hate other women in fiction. No doubt it has something to do with the fact that most fiction is written by dudes and all (straight) dudes would LOVE to have women fighting over them. Also, male writers did AND DO believe that women are dumb, lustful, and literally incapable of any form of intelligent thought other than: “He’s hot. I should still him before the other bitch because CLEARLY the other bitch wants him too. Who would EVER believe they could ‘just be friends?'” 😑
The fact of the matter is, women can be friends with each other. In fact, more often than not women are more likely to be friends with other women than they are men. Why? Dude… do you seriously not see the way society is divided from an early age? Are you blind?!
Most societies divide girls and boys at a YOUNG AGE. They are forced into niches based on what they wear, what hobbies they have, how they mature, etc, etc. And while many people will fight this – because we likely ALL had friends of the other gender when we were young – they usually don’t last all that well when hormones kick in. Then society REALLY tries to separate us because ‘sex is bad’ and yadda yadda. Society literally breeds this massive distinction between men and women and yet society also constantly pushes that women can’t be friends with each other AND women can’t JUST BE FRIENDS with a dude.
So… women have no friends?
Literally that is the only answer here. If women are incapable of being just friends with men and incapable of being non-enemies with other women, then no WONDER there are so many damn cat ladies. Having a gazillion cats is literally the ONLY option. I mean, you could have a gazillion dogs, but then you’d spend all day taking them on walks and not being able to be a hermit. So that’s not gonna happen.
But what do you think?
Can women be friends with each other?
Leave your thoughts below!
And check out my discussion from last week:
“Foreign Languages in Fiction“