How should bloggers react to negative comments?
I have been blogging for 2.5 years now. In that time, my blog has changed so much and I have interacted with so many different people. Some were great. I have made some amazing friends and truly broadened my viewpoint on the world in only a few short years. Others, however, have not been so great because the internet has trolls. But I kind of ask for it.
I mean, I host controversial discussion topics in the hopes that people will comment with whatever they believe because I want to discuss things. And I have definitely received comments that I didn’t agree with or that were negative towards the topic or towards me. Some of these comments are ill-informed and simply opinionated. Some are well-informed and I’m in the wrong, but it doesn’t matter what they are because you still need to respond in the same manner.
You need to respond with humility.
Now, I’m not talking about responding to haters who are cussing out your mother with “oh, well that’s nice. I’m sorry you feel that way.” No, I am talking about responding to people who genuinely want to have a conversation, but who may be of the opposite opinion from yourself and who may get a little heated regarding the discussion. There is nothing wrong with that.
Quite frankly, it amazes me how many people shy away from or blow up at another person who possesses a differing viewpoint from themselves. Why freak out when you could use that opportunity to enlighten yourself or enlighten another person? If we all spoke like civilized, patient human beings, a lot more would get done in the world.
In saying all this, I don’t mean to be all: “Look at me. I’m a saint! I stay completely cool and calm under pressure” because that would be an outright LIE! Hahahaha! You all know how aggressive I can be. You all know how heated and argumentative I can get, especially those who have left me long comments before. I am passionate about the topics I discuss and I ENJOY discussing them. To have someone with a different viewpoint join the conversation is often a rare treat because like-minded people are drawn to my blog.
More importantly, it’s important to remain professional when being called out. Whether it’s because you missed saying something, spoke incorrectly, or only have 60% of the facts, you can’t get all worked up about it when someone points it out. Why? Because you literally have nothing to gain from blowing up besides what? Defending your pride? Your pride ain’t worth look like a dumbass. Hard truth.
I wanted to bring this up because this happened to me last week’s discussion: “Publishing Industry Meets its Quota.” I had intended for the topic to be broad, but I am ill-versed in many genres and I got side-tracked while writing my post so my discussion came out a little wonky. It was not at all like I intended and someone called me out on it.
They posted it in the comments for EVERYONE to see that I had completely forgotten to offer representation to multiple under-represented peoples in my discussion and I was GRATEFUL because I WANTED to talk about them. That part that I had missed was VITAL to the conversation and I immediately sprang up to repair that issue by editing my post, which is fine! There is nothing wrong with editing your post afterwards, but own up to it. Don’t edit, delete their comment, and pretend like nothing happened and you’re fucking perfect. Ya ain’t.
You’re human. And to err is human. Deal with it.
Besides, being perfect is exhausting and not worth your time.
This got a little preachy, but I feel like it needs to be said that bloggers are only human. For 99% of us, this is a hobby. Not our jobs. And no matter who you are, you should treat every other person like a human being, like yourself. Even when they point out some tiny flaws. (Though, if all they do is point out flaws, dump their ass and find better friends. You deserve good ones! 😀 )
But what do you think?
How should you respond to negativity?
Leave your thoughts below!
And check out my discussion from last week:
“Publishing Industry Meets its Quota“