Can LGBT+ people have families?
This is going to be a heavy topic today so buckle your seat belts and hang on. It starts with a post I saw on Facebook about my local baseball team who was having an ‘LGBT Family Day’ to support the people in our community who are LGBT+, but the post wasn’t just about that. No. One of my distant family members felt the need to re-post the event’s advertisement with their own comment about how disgusting it was for our local baseball team to promote their own agenda.
Hold the fucking phone!
First off, ‘agenda?’ Are you kidding me?! You call supporting members of our own community promoting an agenda?! What the absolute fuck!
Second off, I cannot fathom how some people believe themselves ABOVE others simply because they are different! Who the hell made you better? Who the hell said you were set up on a god damn pedestal and why? Because you’re white? Because you’re male? Because you’re straight?! The only one who thinks you’re on a pedestal is you!
So anyway, me, being me, couldn’t keep my mouth shut. My best friend is bisexual and I support her and I will punch absolutely fucking ANYONE in the face if they so much as look at her sideways because her sexuality is NONE OF YOUR GOD DAMN BUSINESS! Nor is anyone else’s for that matter! Get your fucking nose back on your OWN side of the goddamn fence, Mr. Johnson. This isn’t the fucking ’50s anymore! Find something interesting in your OWN life to care about and mind your own BUSINESS! But because I do support people of all sexualities and it has become a trigger for me whenever someone talks bad about them, I replied. And what did I get in response?
“I don’t believe gay people can have families.”
Oh, you don’t, do you? How about when those two unmarried fathers love their child more and support them more and are more proud of them than the heterosexual married couple who are too wrapped up in their own bullshit to even notice they had kids?! Are you telling me that’s not a family?! Are you telling me they don’t deserve to be called a family when they love each other just as much if not MORE than straight people?!
There are a lot of things we support in the world because of ‘tradition’ and they have become extremely toxic. We push people to get married (even if they’re just going to start an abusive relationship and/or get divorced.) We push them to have kids (even though they don’t want them, don’t know how to take care of them, don’t know what it means to support them, and can’t pull their heads out of their own asses long enough to say something nice to their own children.) We push them to stay married for their kids (even though exposing children and teens to a toxic relationship is actually going to do them 10x more psychological damage than if they were children of divorce.)
Stop pushing your idea of what a ‘perfect’ life should be onto other people.
If you have so much time on your hands that you need to butt your face into someone else’s business and tell them how they should live their lives, Stop! Go find a hobby. Find something that actually needs to be fought about in this world and use your excessive amount of energy and time to help that cause. Maybe if you bottled up all that hate and utilized the time you waste on it to start a fundraiser for starving children, for protecting the environment, for doing ANYTHING positive in the world, the world would actually be a better place!
But then, after he stated that he was just voicing his disappointment in the baseball team, I said…
“I’m just voicing my disappointment in your bigotry.”
“It’s not bigotry. Blah blah blah…”
Bigotry. noun. intolerance toward those who hold different opinions from oneself.
“God. Blah blah blah. Hell. Blah blah blah.”
I… I have so much shit to say to anyone who uses Christianity to spout their hatred for another person because, last time I checked, the bible and the Christian God say to ‘love thy neighbor’ and to ‘not judge’ because only God has the power to judge and all those who judge think themselves Godlike and that is a sin so you’re going to Hell. (At least that’s what I remember from church. But you know, not everyone actually listens…)
Please do not take any of this as a slight against Christians. I have met some amazing, wonderful, forgiving, benevolent people who are members of this faith. And I have also met people who pick and choose what they want to believe and twist the word of God to match their own agenda.
But this discussion comes down to the fact that…
ANYONE CAN HAVE A FAMILY!
I don’t care if you are white, black, Asian, Hispanic, Muslim, Hindi, Jewish, Christian, bi, gay, trans. Everyone is allowed to have a family. Everyone is allowed to CALL their family a family because a family is not determined by the members of that group. A family is determined by the love shared between people and, quite frankly, I have seen more love in non-traditional family groups (whether they are romantically involved or just platonicly loved) than I have seen in most ‘traditional’ family groups.
And check out my discussion from last week: